I do not think I am generalising or exaggerating if I say that every parent in the world hopes their children will be lucky and, if that is the case, then I am no exception. To be lucky or not to be lucky, is that the question? When I think of my concept of what "luck” is, I remember how I thought of it when I was a child. I imagined an invisible magic wand which, guided by the hand of fate, touched the lives of the chosen ones. As I grew up, I realised that there are two types of luck. The first is the one that is granted by particular circumstances and by something more too. This is the type of luck that you do not sit around waiting for and that you can manage to create by your own actions and attitudes. And then there is the other type of luck, the one that is granted by chance.
Today I would like to talk to you about the first type of luck, the one that you must work on, the one that requires something more than mere chance, and I want to do this because I believe that as parents and educators we can have a real influence. Whenever I have the opportunity to talk with teenagers and young people, I say to them, "I’ve got some really good news for you.” Their expectant faces light up, as if waiting for a gift to fall from heaven. Then, when I go on to explain that, “Most of what happens to you from now in life on depends only on you yourselves,” their expectation turns to disappointment. And then I add, "Don’t you think that’s really good news? I’d be a lot more worried about what might happen to me in the future, if it just depended on other people.” I am convinced that as parents, we need to be able to convey this message to our children from when they are very young. But how can we teach them that everyone has the seed of luck planted within them and therefore we are all potentially fortunate?
I still remember the day when a wonderful book came into my hands: it was a book on personal growth. My experience of this type of book is that they tend to be a collection of different pieces of advice that are often difficult to put into practice, at least in their entirety. However, I assure you that in this case it was not at all like that, because instead of personal anecdotes and advice, I came across a story. What a perfect way to convey a powerful message to adults! That book illustrated how we may all forge our own destiny and create our own luck, through the story of a magician and two gentlemen. Reading it, besides being a pleasant experience, was easy and very enjoyable, and its message was clear and loud. I was pleasantly surprised that such an abstract concept as luck could be explained by such a simple story that even a small child could understand it. I decided I had to try it out. I wanted to see if this story, with its imaginary creatures, could also touch the lives of my young children and leave its mark on them, just as it had done on me.
That was how this book came to be their bedtime story over several nights. It was difficult for my son, who at that time was only 3 years old, to understand the message. However, my daughter, who was 6, did comprehend that Good Luck is a tapestry that is woven day by day, moment by moment, with every tiny gesture and, above all, largely through attitude.
I will never tire of repeating that we can help our children to have good, or better, luck. Maybe you are thinking that it would be difficult to deal with such an intangible concept as luck with children, but I encourage you to start by reading them this book. I am sure that like me, chapter by chapter you will open up areas for in-depth conversation regarding how we ourselves can forge our own destiny and our own luck. It is easy to find parallels between the challenges that the characters in the story must overcome and the situations faced by our children in their daily lives. Helping our children have certain attitudes to life, to take charge of their lives, is the best legacy we can give them. Be lucky!